Skip to main content

Behind the veil

Behind the veil there is an attractive young lady with shining mousy hair, twinkling eyes, roly-poly face, beaky nose, tiny ears with hanging ear rings, spunky lips and swan-like neck. This is an average Indian concept about a bride.

 Huh...Marriage...
Indian society is more concerned with "marriage". The moment a baby girl is born, her parents and the entire society they are belonging to will start thinking about her marriage. Once she completed her basic studies, she will be pushed into a "pressure cooker" of deliberately misconstrued social values and rules. The whole world seems to be forcing her deeply to get tied up with a guy.

Years back women were just a standing statue behind the door. The society prevented women from making their own living and there was an ineludible dependence on men's income. But now the situation has changed a lot. Women are actively participating in every field such as social work, science and technology etc. The august entry of women into the field of politics is an admirable step in this era. Still the society is pulling her back into a narrow path. If a woman were to decide to remain single beyond the time boundary set by the society, she would be ridiculed and pitied by the community. From my point of view, getting married without thinking about "what is life all about?" will go tits-up as a social being. It's quite easy to be an "amul baby" without concerning about the society or without doing anything to the society.



Marriage should be for the right reasons. Indians, especially Keralites get married for foolish reasons. The most common reason put forward by the Keralites is the "security". Is security possible by a marriage in a state with high sexual assault rate ? I don't think so. May be, after marriage, woman will start facing domestic violence. The traditional social norms will accept such a domestic violence within the four walls of the home as a part of her life. 

Even the current educational system has not changed the mindset. They are only teaching her to be good wives and mother. I know, being a mother is a divine emotion and it's a feeling of being complete. But, can you imagine what the feelings of "Blessed Teresa of Calcutta" are? Now, I remember her famous quote, "a life not lived for others is not a life". 


She lived a life of love and kindness. She showed a great commitment in uplifting the society. Capturing the love and devotion of so many from all walks of life is such a gargantuan feeling.

I have many friends(girls) who are working after their studies in top MNCs without bothering about what is happening around them and concerned only about "money and marriage". Persuading a professional degree and working in an MNC with plenty of money above the neck is not the ultimate purpose of our life. Money money money.... People are all behind the money. But no one tries to be the soul of society. The most crestfallen matter I found is that a lot of my friends (boys) don't prefer their wives to work after marriage.   

As a human, we should do something for the society. Getting married in the budding stage of life and shrinked to our own personal life is not a good choice. 

Things were pretty normal till the end of my college life. Soon, I started facing the question, "ha...when is your marriage?". Parents..relatives..neighbors... all began to think about my marriage. My relatives and parents told me that the age of 22 is the best to get married and within the age of 25 a lady should conceive. Is there a perfect age to get married? One of my friend supported my attitude towards the society and  tried to understand what I want to do in my life. I was greatly inspired by his wordings, "am pretty sure that you will reach somewhere at the heights". Yet, I am pushed into the prison of nasty beliefs. I am not expecting my parents to let me free without having married to someone. But I have a strong persuasion to serve the society by exposing my potential. 

We all have an obligation to the society. Obligation is something which should come from our inner spirit. We should be fully satisfied with our contributions to the burning society. Life will be meaningful only when we make contributions to both the society and ourselves. Getting married is a contribution to ourselves, our personal life. We are getting complete as a daughter, sister, wife and mother by our wedding. 

Beyond these, we are "humans" and the world is in our hands.


Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Review: Freedom from the known

This is a review on the book "Freedom from the known" by Jiddu Krishnamurti. I read this book about 2 months ago. This is the one and only book that I read from cover to cover with full concentration. I want to share my experience because this is the most deepest book that I have ever read and it was a challenging experience for me. The book is a philosophical one which includes the subject matters such as freedom, fear, self-centered behaviour of humans and finally meditation.                                                              The first part of the book describes about "Freedom". Here the freedom means getting free from all authorities. That is, free from the nasty rules of the society, religion and whatever the authority is and be with a fresh, young and an unconditioned mind. Jiddu mentioned that we should not merely f...
Post a Comment
Read more

The Light Behind The Darkness

Behind every darkness, there is a light. But most people in our society  don't  want to bring that light to ignore the darkness. Almost 95% of the people are narrow minded. They are not even making an attempt to see what the darkness is and what the root cause of that is. Many people say that “if there is light, then there is darkness. Its fate…”.  But I believe that this is an utter nonsense. All human beings have the ability to lighten up this world. If each and every one of tries to understand this, then the darkness can be ameliorated. All human beings are responsible for the darkness. Don't you ever think about those who are living in the darkness and whose dreams have fed up in that deep hollow? All of us have to think about this. Otherwise we will be the losers in the life from the perspective of the society, from the perspective of the world and even from the perspective of this sacred nature. Those people in such a dark world will be mentally weakened. So,...
1 comment
Read more

Coffee please...

Coffee please... This is the perfect start for our day. In fact, drinking coffee has become so addictive that some people can't get through the day without slurping atleast a cup of coffee in the morning and evening. The History of Coffee It is in the Ethiopian highlands, where the legend of Kaldi, originated, the coffee trees. It is said that he discovered coffee after noticing that his goats, upon eating berries from a certain tree, became so spirited that they did not want to sleep at night.  Kaldi dutifully reported his findings to the abbot of the local monastery who made a drink with the berries and discovered that it kept him alert for the long hours of evening prayer.  Soon the abbot had shared his discovery with the other monks at the monastery, and ever so slowly knowledge of the energizing effects of the berries began to spread.  As word moved east and coffee reached the Arabian peninsula, it began a journey which would spread its reputation across ...
2 comments
Read more